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Grief and emotions

Grief and emotions

Whenever you experience a loss, your emotional responses follow their own rhythm with no set sequence. Grieving is different for each loss. You might feel deep sorrow, shock, rage, guilt, heartbreak, relief, blame, denial, or elation. All of the above, none, or just some.

Whatever you feel, whenever these emotions arise, welcome them as teachers. Grief takes its own time, and each new wave is a another chance to let go and integrate another aspect of that loss.

Rumi, a 12th century Sufi mystic, has expressed it so well in The Guest House, here translated by Coleman Barks. We can make a space inside of us that is expansive enough to hold it all.

THE GUEST HOUSE

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond. 

Contact me if you’d like some company and guidance with your losses. I can support you to be with your emotions, as they move through your physical and energy bodies. We can also use movement and creative processes to allow the emotions to get unstuck.

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Healing Quotes

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi