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Making Space for your Grief

Making Space for your Grief

I found this short, simple meditation by wonderful mindfulness teacher Jack Kornfield. As the second anniversary of my mother’s death nears, I’m amazed at the many layers of new information I’m discovering with this meditation. Click on the title to hear it.

A Meditation on Grief

I am reminded that I really wanted to liberate my mom and make her life better. Make it possible for her to enjoy more creative freedom and power. Somehow I thought I was bound to bring her along with me to more of that liberation. In the end, how typical of the healer in me, well-meaning but arrogant! It was never my job to take on. Her life was full and beautiful and just right according to her soul path.

It is my job to make sure that I fully express my creativity and share my healing gifts. I’m here to embody the subtle, soft, comforting power that is my Medicine.

I wonder about the especially strong bonds and interconnected lives of mothers and daughters. Would love to hear your story of individuating from and continuing the good legacy of your mother.


me and Mom, 1967

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Healing Quotes

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks