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Occupy Yourself part one


Inspired by Occupy Wall Street, I am launching The Fluent Body blog with some thoughts on reclaiming inner authority, choosing what you really want, and acting on your core values to achieve that.

Today we’ll experiment with occupying ourselves. To come home to the body can be a challenge for those who have not felt safe to be there.  If you’ve experienced trauma, it is held in the tissues and fluids and potency of the body until it is allowed to resolve.  (For help with trauma resolution, please contact me.)

We’ll approach the body with compassion and if it feels right, TRY THIS:

  • Remember what makes you feel alive. Remember what you love. Remember what brings you joy.  Remember what gives you a sense of fulfilling your purpose.
  • Feel how that is in your body. What emotions do you feel? What are the physical sensations? For instance, what brings you joy might make you sense more sunlight and warmth. What you love might make your heart expand out. Notice the textures, sounds, smells, tastes, and images.
  • If it feels right, invite this good feeling to permeate every cell of your body. This is who you really are. Be it. Do this remembering meditation daily.
  • Put it into some physical form. Draw or paint what it feels like. Write post-it notes about what you love and stick them where you can see them. Journal about it. Dance from that place of fulfilled purpose. Sing or tone about it.
  •  Do the things that bring you back to this liveliness and well-being.

Please let me know what happens.  I’d like to hear how your experiment goes. For more direct individual support on occupying yourself, please contact me.

Blessings, Carol

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Healing Quotes

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly