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Relationship, the Pathless Path

Relationship, the Pathless Path

When you are in a relationship for a long time, it’s good to renew your vision together now and then. My husband and I, on an anniversary trip to Santa Fe, sought out a double labyrinth, a chance to do a walking meditation together to discover where we are and how to go forward in a fresh way. It was supposed to be two paths that meet in the middle.

A labyrinth is a marked path for walking meditation, like the classic design below. You follow the path winding your way to the center. The turning right and turning left clears your mind and allows you to let go of previous assumptions. You get into a relaxed, slightly altered state. In the center you pause to listen deeply and receive new wisdom for a question you’ve been carrying. Walking out, you integrate and embody that fresh understanding.


Upon reaching the double labyrinth, pictured at the heading photo above, we had to laugh. The 8 banners marked the cardinal points of a circle. In the middle was a little altar space. But there was no path marked.

If you’ve been in a genuine searching relationship, you know that is the flat out truth. It is a pathless way, like any spiritual practice. You have to continually:


(drawing from a performance piece by Jeffrey Gibson)

So we did. We made up a simple meditation, a way to move sunwise around the edge of the circle starting from opposite sides. At each banner, we’d pause to receive some information about how to move forward. I received imagery from the trees or sky. My husband got simple timeless wisdom.

Some of what we gathered:

  • Wind carries away what’s no longer useful. Clear sky.
  • Be present. Be here now.
  • Juniper bush full of ripe berries – our abundance and gratitude.
  • Trusting our ability to create and find our way.

So if you are having an issue in your relationship, please contact me. I can help you come back into relationship with yourself and your partner.


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Healing Quotes

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly