In healing work (and in life in general), we can get caught in looking for what’s wrong so that we can fix it. I used to go to Medicine Ceremonies seeking evidence that I was defective and broken, because that’s how I felt. I was repeatedly confronted with this crucial bit of wisdom: there’s nothing really wrong with me.
It was a bad habit – keeping myself at a distance, not in play because I felt not worthy. The Medicine (the Big Love) eventually worked through me, and is still working through me. I was able to switch to first seeing what is working, what is good and right. I’m grateful for healing modalities like biodynamic craniosacral therapy and Intuition Medicine®, which are predicated on revealing our innate wholeness.
Now I practice accepting myself as a work-in-progress, a fallible human being just trying to learn how to offer myself in service. I naturally see my clients, friends, and loved ones that way. Why is it so hard to be as considerate with ourselves?
The archetype of the Visionary helps train us to see ourselves kindly and clearly. And sometimes we need others we trust to show us a clear mirror.
Next time you catch yourself being overly self-critical, take a pause. Decide if that is truly supportive. You may wonder where it came from, but don’t go too far down that wormhole. The buck stops here, and you get to choose in this moment what nourishing thoughts, speech, and actions you offer to yourself.
Remember you are the Big Love. How would the Big Love treat you? You know. Be brave and be kind.