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Seeing Ourselves Clearly with the Visionary

Seeing Ourselves Clearly with the Visionary

In healing work (and in life in general), we can get caught in looking for what’s wrong so that we can fix it. I used to go to Medicine Ceremonies seeking evidence that I was defective and broken, because that’s how I felt. I was repeatedly  confronted with this crucial bit of wisdom: there’s nothing really wrong with me.

It was a bad habit – keeping myself at a distance, not in play because I felt not worthy. The Medicine (the Big Love) eventually worked through me, and is still working through me. I was able to switch to first seeing what is working, what is good and right. I’m grateful for healing modalities like biodynamic craniosacral therapy and Intuition Medicine®, which are predicated on revealing our innate wholeness.


Now I practice accepting myself as a work-in-progress, a fallible human being just trying to learn how to offer myself in service. I naturally see my clients, friends, and loved ones that way. Why is it so hard to be as considerate with ourselves?

The archetype of the Visionary helps train us to see ourselves kindly and clearly. And sometimes we need others we trust to show us a clear mirror.


Next time you catch yourself being overly self-critical, take a pause. Decide if that is truly supportive. You may wonder where it came from, but don’t go too far down that wormhole. The buck stops here, and you get to choose in this moment what nourishing thoughts, speech, and actions you offer to yourself.

Remember you are the Big Love. How would the Big Love treat you? You know. Be brave and be kind.



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Healing Quotes

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa