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Self-Care for Introverts

Self-Care for Introverts

I’m a straight married woman whose friends are mostly LGBTQ+. I live in the Castro in San Francisco, a historically gay neighborhood. During Pride season, when literally thousands of people flood into our little neighborhood, it can be challenging to know whether to stay in or be out and about showing support for my community of beloveds.

Why? Because I’m an introvert.* Introverts can be really social one-on-one or in small, intimate groups, but can burnt out on big crowds and need to recharge in solitude.

So I’m going to practice being in the moment, and I invite you to do so too. Do I want to join the big parade crowd for a bit, be on the outskirts a little? Do I want to hermit up and stay home all weekend? It’ll probably be a little of both, checking in with myself often.

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So for all of you out celebrating Pride, I might see you, I might not. Either way, I am a proud ally of the LGBTQ+ community. It is an honor to be friends with so many fine individuals being true to themselves and changing the culture by being out. Always connected in spirit with them.

*Susan Cain’s Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking is phenomenal on introversion.

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