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The World Moves Towards You

The World Moves Towards You

I am following the thread of interest in working with people facing death. I started to fill out an application as a special skills volunteer for a local hospice. As I typed it out, I felt a visceral “bleah” with my tongue sticking out and everything. I took that as a NO, for now.

I discovered it was a ‘logical’ step, a ‘sensible’ option, and part of the larger wave of  ‘shoulds’ I’d been allowing to pressure me into action.


And then news came of a friend’s diagnosis of a rare cancer. And while he is calm and centered as he starts treatment, bolstered by decades of meditation, I am a wreck. This is what I wanted, to be able to be present with someone facing mortality. And yet I have fear that I can’t set aside my own pre-loss feelings to just be there for him.

It’s not like I haven’t done this before. This is like being there for a client – you follow their process. But somehow, maybe because I’m older, this time it’s closer in.

Sometimes you move towards the world, and sometimes it moves towards you.


So me and my fear are going to schedule time tonight with my friend. I will join the others on his team to cook and bring food, to read to him when he wants, do whatever I can.


It is the season of the Day of the Dead, and the veil between worlds is thin. I want to befriend Death, because she is our constant companion. She wants to midwife us into the next big thing. I want to be part of the grace of someone living to the fullest and leaving when it’s his time. It’s good practice for my own living and dying.

If you are in a circle of support for someone ill or dying, I’d like to be part of your support team. To deal with your pre-grief, to face your own fear. Please contact me. We are all in this together.

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Healing Quotes

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa