guiding you through grief, loss, and new life
Where are you, who are you, where are you going?

Where are you, who are you, where are you going?

Orienting to WHERE YOU ARE is a primary means of feeling safety and reconnecting to yourself.

  • Are you in your body, grounded, connected to earth? Can you feel your sitz bones if sitting, your feet if standing, the whole of your body if lying down?
  • Are your senses open? Can you smell, taste, hear, see, feel where you are?
  • Can you reflect and take stock of where you are in your life? If restless or dissatisfied, there’s probably someplace you want to go.

Rediscovering WHO YOU ARE requires you to catch up with yourself.

  • Look to the people around you. Your friends and family and coworkers reflect who you are, show you something about yourself.
  • What’s deeper? What are your true gifts and unique qualities that you express?
  • If you don’t know, it’s good to remember you belong anyway. Name your many ‘tribes’ or layers of identity, for example:
    • human, woman
    • writer, artist
    • traveler, learner, reader, art lover
    • teacher, healer, server, colleague
    • dancer, yogini, mover
    • wife/partner, auntie, sibling,
    • friend
    • citizen
    • nature being
  • Mostly it’s hard if you have experienced loss, and are not quite the same person you knew yourself to be.

Knowing WHERE YOU ARE GOING can be confusing.

  • You may be a spontaneous person, having so many ideas that it’s hard to follow through.
  • You may be a slow flow person, getting stuck in preparing before taking action.
  • You may be a dynamic person, losing sight of everything but achieving the goal.
  • You may be a reflective person, demanding perfection.

Let me know how I can be of service to orient you and support you to reconnect with yourself and move forward.




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Healing Quotes

“There is deep wisdom within our very flesh, if we can only come to our senses and feel it.”

– Elizabeth A. Behnke

“We are the facilitators of our own creative evolution.”

– Bill Hicks

“Joy moves always to new locations,
the ease of its flow never freezing.
A long winter’s tale is over. Now
with each spring day, a new story.”

– Rumi

“We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– E. M. Forster

“In order to be a good warrior, one has to feel this sad and tender heart.”

– Chogyam Trungpa

“The next message you need is always right where you are.”

– Ram Dass

“Grief is not a task to finish,
And move on,
But an element of yourself –
An alteration of your being.
A new way of seeing,
A new definition of self.”

– Barb Mather

“Human beings are not born once and for all on the day their mothers give birth to them…life obliges them over and over again to give birth to themselves.”

– Gabriel Garcia Marquez

“Our only security is our ability to change.”

– John Lilly

“Don’t run away from grief, o soul
Look for the remedy inside the pain.
Because the rose came from the thorn
And the ruby came from a stone.”

– Rumi

“The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty YES to your adventure.”

– Joseph Campbell

“Everything in life that we really accept undergoes a change. So suffering must become love. That is the mystery.”

– Katherine Mansfield

“It’s time again. Tear up the violets and plant something more difficult to grow.”

– James Schuyler

“Your absence has gone through me like thread through a needle. Everything I do is stitched with its color.”

– W. S. Merwin

“Now is the moment, Here is the place of Liberation.”

– Alex Grey

“The absolute tranquility is the present moment. Though it is at this moment, there is no limit to this moment, and therein is eternal delight.”

– Hui-Neng