Soul Agreements with Siblings
Do you feel like an alien who was dropped into your family with no sense of why these people, why this home? I used to feel that, but I now have a bigger sense of sovereignty.
I entertain the belief that my Soul chose the just right circumstances for it to grow and heal as much as possible in this lifetime. Notice I didn’t say easiest or most comfortable. A big part of that choosing was landing in a family with these certain parents and siblings. So much is made of the influence of our parents, but what about how we siblings help shape each other?
In energy medicine school we did a lot of work with Soul Agreements as the underpinning for relationship dynamics. A Soul Agreement is a set of vows or a pact made between your Spirit and another’s Spirit before incarnating together in this lifetime. There may be karmic ties, meaning you two may have incarnated together in different forms in different relationships in different lifetimes. Different people but same Souls trying to learn something together over a long, long time.
Consider you and a sibling. Sometimes your Soul Agreements will have you learn about competition, rivalry, sufficiency, and uniqueness. Sometimes it’s to practice trust and allyship and always having each other’s back. Sometimes it’s about settling old scores to continue or break the cycle of harm. Sometime it’s doing whatever it takes to survive the family or the culture, together or apart.
"Families are made in the heart...If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you."
-C. Joybell C.
Soul Agreements are not conscious, so we have to use intuition and intention to reveal what they are. Are the old programs that are running in the background and influencing our behavior useful? Or do the Soul Agreements need to be edited, updated, discarded? Maybe a whole new agreement needs to be made. This is how you change the energy between you and a sibling from your side, without trying to change the other person. It takes one person to shift a relationship dynamic towards neutrality, openness, and even more healing.
BE THE ONE
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Interested?
Join our Sibling Healing Circle coming up in November. In the circle we’ll lay the groundwork for individual Soul Agreement work by getting current on the relationship with a sibling, letting go of what no longer serves, and setting forth what we’d like the relationship to be. You can add on an individual Soul Agreement session for a more thorough updating of your vows with your sibling. Read more and sign up HERE .
Also if you want to work on Soul Agreements in any relationship, book a Discovery Call and a healing session HERE .
